If you ask a person what their goals in life are, you’ll hear them talk with excitement about a mixture of things, convinced that they are what they want.
However, many times, these things are not really their own goals. They’re just goals they’ve picked up from others. They think they want these things, but if they achieve them it won’t really make them happier.
This is a serious concern because you can spend years chasing certain outcomes, only to find out that you didn’t really desire to achieve them in the first place, other people wanted you to achieve them. It’s not only frustrating, but it also fills you with doubt and chokes your motivation to pursue any other goals you may think you have.
When it comes to achieving goals, common advice that is given is to work hard. If you read motivational quotes and books, you’ll discover that many of them related to success basically say that if you work hard enough on a goal, you will eventually achieve it. I would say this is true for most goals but for the big ones, hard work alone isn’t enough.
You could be smart and work hard your entire life and still not achieve the things that you desire. Many people have realized this and even advise others to set realistic goals believing that it’s better to aim lower rather than higher. The problem with this thinking is you will be chasing something you think you can get rather than something you actually want.
I love watching the underdog succeed. I can’t help it, I’m American. This country was born fighting an impossible war with improbable odds to win our freedom from tyranny. Watching the underdog sets our emotions on fire. Whether it’s the last minute comeback of a losing sports team or the person who fought off a deadly disease; we are invigorated by the human struggle.
Did you know that there are four parts of visualization that you can learn and practice to assure that you use this incredible power to its best advantage all the days of your life.
The first aspect of visualization is frequency, the number of times that you visualize a particular goal as achieved of yourself performing in an excellent way in a particular event or circumstance. The more frequently you repeat a clear mental picture of your very best performance or result, the more rapidly it will appear as part of your reality.
Yes, I often talk about “Building Belief” and the power belief gives you in achieving your goals.
Here are several exercises to help you do this:
1.) Speak mantras and affirmations daily as if your goal has already been accomplished.
2.) Make a list of 100 reasons why your goal simply MUST happen for the betterment of you, your family, community and the planet.
3.) Modeling: Find someone who has already achieved what you want and study them. Allow their story to inspire and guide you.
There is no purer form of success, no more exact and demanding test of what you are capable of, than to achieve a desirable outcome.
Although the definition of success varies for each individual, the fundamentals for achieving a goal are always the same.
It is a process that begins with decisiveness, proceeds to focus, advances to action, then carries on with persistence and follow-through before ending in victory.
There is no other way!
Goal setting takes your life and gives it direction as it helps you to determine the answers to 6 important questions:
In my many years of coaching and consulting, I’ve found that, in virtually every case, (consciously or unconsciously) the decision to achieve goals and to become more successful boils down to the desire for greater freedom.
The opportunity to enjoy and continually expand your personal freedom is what distinguishes high and low achievers.
The Five Freedoms which I’m about to outline offer the framework for a permanent foundation on which to build goals for the rest of your life.
The distance between those who achieve their goals consistently and those who spend their lives and careers merely following has everything to do with one’s ability to go the extra mile.
Search wherever you will for a single sound argument against the principle of going the extra mile, and you will not find it, nor will you find a single instance of enduring success which was not attained in part by its application.
From parenting children to managing a staff, the true leaders in any field are willing to go farther than anyone else… the extra mile.
Achieving goals often requires the support and involvement of other people, which poses a challenge when those individuals object to our plans.
Although some people react to resistance by trying to guilt or strong-arm others into complying with their wishes, highly successful people recognize that such tactics are manipulative and destructive to long-term relationships. Instead, they employ enrollment skills to gain others’ cooperation and support.
The Enrollment Process: Successful enrollment consists of four steps.
Step 1: Evoke the other person’s vision. Your goal is to identify what the other person’s ideal state looks like. In other words, what does success look like to them.
Everyone has individual goals but only about 3% have a well-balanced goals program. An individual goal could be something as simple as getting to work on time or losing ten pounds. It could be a negative goal like getting the next fix or the next drink.
A goals program is an entirely different matter. There are four basic reasons people do not have a goals program. Number one is an unrealistic or imagined fear which causes one to believe that his or her efforts will produce failure, so it is “safer” not to try.